I was recently asked an awesome question…
“I think a lot of weight loss goals are mental, especially with “dieting”. Got any tips on how to overcome mental obstacles to achieve a healthier lifestyle instead of just “dieting”?”
Now, I don’t believe in dieting but rather making healthy lifestyle changes. Dieting can lead to feelings of deprivation, a slowed metabolism, imbalanced hormones, and can be very detrimental to your health in the long run. Diets are what’s actually making us fatter, sicker, and increasingly frustrated with ourselves!
So how do you get away from dieting and instead make healthy lifestyle choices regarding what you eat?
Change your MINDSET and how you THINK!
Here are my three top tips to do just that:
1) Find your WHY.
Why do you want to lose weight, get in shape, or eat healthier? DIG DEEP here. You don’t want to JUST lose weight or be healthier.
WHY do you want to lose weight? Is it because you want to have more confidence or feel sexy in a bikini?
That’s not enough…keep digging.
Why do you want to have more confidence? Maybe so you can feel sexy around your spouse or boyfriend and feel comfortable getting naked and having sex. Or so that he will find you attractive. Or maybe it’s to find a mate, perform better at your job (so you can get that promotion and bring in more money for you or your family), or maybe it’s so you can be a role model to your kids so they don’t grow up unhealthy and have to deal with the same lack of confidence you face now.
DIG down and ask yourself WHY 5 times. Keep going and get to the real reason why you want to stick to a healthy lifestyle.
Finding this WHY will fuel you for the long run and inspire you to make lasting changes, not short term changes that last a day or a week.
2) Quit focusing on what you DON’T want and start focusing on what you DO want.
So what are you thinking about right now? Something like that –>
Ok, cool down there girlie we have important stuff to discuss!
See when you focus on something you don’t want such as that flabby stomach or how hard it is to quit having a glass of wine daily or that chocolate bar, you’re simply inviting more of it into your life and making it more difficult to say no.
When all you can think about is what you don’t want, you seem to find more of it!
When all you can think about is what you can’t have, that’s all you want!
Instead focus on the things you do want!
A fit, toned body.
Looking sexy in a bikini, tank top, or short skirt.
Better sleep that comes with regular exercise and a healthy diet.
Food that will fuel your body, give you energy and make you feel fantastic.
Energy to do all the things you love!
See where I’m going with this? Focus on those things you DO want instead of the things you DON’T want.
3) Don’t just give up unhealthy behaviors (such as your daily soda or that chocolate binge when you’re stressed). Replace them with a healthy behavior.
Have you ever binged on a pint of Ben and Jerry’s because you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or depressed? I know I have.
Yeah you feel great for a few minutes when that HIGH from the sugar kicks in, but then the guilt and stomach ache starts to kick in. Although you vow never to do this again, the next time you’re in a crummy mood you repeat the same behavior all over again.
That thing called willpower just didn’t work now did it? No, it didn’t and that’s because this behavior is a habit. It’s how you deal.
Kudos for making the decision to stop this destructive behavior, but the mistake is that you don’t find a healthy fix to replace that unhealthy fix. You haven’t found something else to give you that same high, to boost you up, to make you feel better.
Now you have no way to handle those feelings of stress.
And so you fall back into the same destructive cycle.
The key to end this destructive cycle is to get that high in a healthy way such as getting up a dancing (that always boosts my mood), listening to an uplifting or energetic song, going for a walk, calling a friend, or doing something you love and enjoy that boosts your mood.
If you simply just try to give up the behavior you’ll feel deprived and have no way to handle these stressful feelings…you’ll cave and fall back into old patterns and habits.
Make a promise to yourself that the next time you are stressed or depressed, instead of opting for the sugar high, choose a healthy high instead. Over time it will become easier and will become a habit and you can proudly say…
“Good-bye Ben and Jerry! I don’t need you or want you anymore!!”
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